Tuesday, March 27, 2012

My wife and I started our Journey to parenthood a few short weeks ago and I have to say what a journey this has started out to be. We decided to go with a surrogate due to some medical conditions my wife has. We felt it would be much safer to go this route then it would be for her to carry a baby. We got all of our paper work filled out and was ready to enroll when I was faced with some of the hardest news I've ever had to deal with. On Thursday of last week I went in for my semen analysis to make sure everything was ok before we moved further into this process. I never figured anything would be wrong as I don’t really have any major medical issues but we wanted to be safe. Well my results came back and I was told there would be no way I could possibly have a biological child. I thought this was the end of our journey as you have to have a genetic connection with the child. I went thru every emotion possible in a matter of a few short hours. How in the world could this happen to me? I guess that is something everyone who has gone thru IVF or Surrogacy asks themselves. Then by some higher power we got a glimmer of hope. My Brother in Law offered to step in and take my place in the process. I feel like I've been given the greatest gift anyone could ever give me. We are keeping our fingers crossed as he is having his test completed tomorrow. I wanted to share this because when I was researching online about men who have gone thru this I really didn’t find too much out there. I know I'm not the first man to ever go thru this and I'm hoping by sharing our story I can provide a glimmer of hope to other couples out there who are facing the same obstacles we are facing. I'll be sure to keep everyone updated of our progress as we join in this journey with all of you.


  1. Hiya M and J, wishing you all the best and keeping my fingures crossed for you x

  2. M&J
    Just think of how far you have gone and how much further you will go. My dream was become a dad, and its finally happing. The wait kills me but like you said no news is good news

    Prayers for you two